A reformed drug addict who slept with more than 700 men has revealed how she hit rock bottom when a partner turned violent during a terrifying encounter – and she now runs empowerment ‘bootcamps’ to help others overcome their addiction.
Belinda ‘Love’ Rygier, a former Bachelor contestant, also confessed that her wild lifestyle strained her friendships because she ditched her friends in the evenings so she could have casual sex – and even tried to connect to his local supermarket.
Speaking to Daily Mail Australia, Ms Rygier said her runaway addiction came to a head when one of the men became violent, but was later told she could not press charges because she had ‘scratched’ the man while defending himself.
“When he pushed me down the stairs and locked me in the garage, I had a black eye and they thought my hand was broken,” she recalled of that terrible night.
Reformed drug addict Belinda ‘Love’ Rygier (pictured), who has slept with over 700 men, has revealed how she hit rock bottom when a partner turned violent in a terrifying encounter
‘It was pretty bad. I went to work and they sent me home. The police came and they said because he had a scratch on his arm from my ring, after he tried to take it off of me, we could both go to jail for domestic violence,’ a she added.
Ms Rygier said the incident marked a turning point and encouraged her to unpack her emotions, as well as her perceptions of love and sex.
This journey has led her to start her own healing boot camps, where she teaches about self-esteem and how to build healthy, respectful relationships.
Ms Rygier, a former Baccalaureate contestant, said her wild lifestyle put a strain on her friendships as she ditched her friends in the evenings so she could have casual sex.
‘It was my turning point. I thought, “I have to help myself.” This is where the journey began, and it was a very rapid transformation. Once you decide [to change]it goes very fast.’
The TV star and sex educator began counseling and personal development work to better understand the psychology behind her compulsive behavior.
“Having a coach who called me and held me accountable made me dig deep. I never knew I had a sex addiction until I healed my trauma,” he said. she stated.
As she walked the road to recovery, Ms. Rygier did some serious soul-searching while working through her complicated childhood and avoidant personality.
Speaking to Daily Mail Australia, Ms Rygier said her uncontrollable addiction came to a head when one of her partners became violent, but was later told she could not press charges because she had ‘scratched’ the man while defending himself.
Reflecting on her years of active addiction, she confessed that sex “was constantly on my mind”, even when she was in the supermarket.
“I’d go grocery shopping and be like, ‘Oh, I wonder if he’d be interested? “, She said.
However, the majority of her conquests were men – and sometimes women – whom she found in bars and nightclubs on nights out.
Her tunnel vision sometimes upset her friends, as she would “ditch” them by going clubbing as soon as she decided to go online.
“I was never self-aware. As soon as I walked out I was like, ‘Where’s a hot guy?’
“Sex is the only addiction I fell for because it made me feel loved. Love is really what I’ve been missing in my life.
Reflecting on her years of active addiction, she confessed that sex “was constantly on my mind”, even when she was in the supermarket. However, the majority of her conquests were men – and sometimes women – whom she found in bars and nightclubs on nights out. (Ms Rygier, front row, centre, is pictured as a contestant on The Bachelor Australia)
Looking back on the way her life was, Ms Rygier said one of her biggest regrets was being “the other woman in a relationship”.
She was “a mistress a few times” and at the time found the idea of a man “willing to ruin his marriage to be with me” quite exciting.
“It’s something I’m not proud of,” she confessed, adding that these men usually end up leaving their wives anyway “for other reasons.”
“When things take you so badly, you are ready to hurt others. That was probably my lowest point,” she said of those cases.
Looking back on the way her life was, Ms Rygier (pictured on The Bachelor Australia) said one of her biggest regrets was being ‘the other woman in a relationship’
A habit Ms Rygier has observed in many people – and drug addicts in particular – is the belief that love is a “competition” or a “challenge” that must be won.
This toxic attitude is one of the reasons she is so determined to continue her work promoting healing and recovery – despite the sloppy mail and hate she receives as a woman who speaks openly about her sex addiction.
“The judgment, trolling and hate you get for being honest about addiction is endless,” she said.
Her candor about her former life has encouraged men to send her lewd photos and ask her for sex, and she often receives unsolicited messages detailing “really unusual fantasies”.
For those struggling with sex or porn addiction, Ms Rygier said understanding your own character flaws and relationship style is crucial.
“You have to heal the hurt, love yourself, understand your attachment style and your love language to heal,” she said of the lessons she teaches at her boot camps.
“The transformations I get for clients are phenomenal,” she continued.
“They go from being ‘no one will ever like me, I’m not attractive’ to getting married and having babies in a year.”
Ms Rygier (left, with a friend) now runs bootcamps to help customers move from ‘trauma to command’ so they can build healthy and respectful relationships
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